All my life I was weary of anyone, anything, any offer, any nice things given to me or any amazing opportunities that came my way. It always seemed too good to be true. Who was I to deserve good things, what is the catch, how disappointed will I be in the end? I played it safe, very low expectations and always waiting for the ‘bad’ thing to happen.
Now looking back that was a seriously miserable outlook on life…but it was my normal, I didn’t know I could feel any other way. After doing lots of shadow work, self-development and learning about neuro plasticity. I slowly began to learn how to love myself enough to feel worthy so that I could trust anything great that came my way.
Without self-love and self-worth, we don’t have self-trust. If we can’t trust ourselves there is no way we could trust anyone or anything else. The key is digging deep to the part that hurt in the first place. Nurture it, acknowledge it, forgive it and boost it up with new positive emotions like love and gratitude so our new memories, our new reactions and muscle memory are reaching and looking for the amazing opportunities out there, rather than hiding behind the safe known inside.
Just now, when I was hanging the washing out, I felt this big realisation wash over me. I have had some amazing opportunities presented to me in the last 8 weeks and I grabbed onto them with both hands and a very happy and excited heart. Everything has worked out perfectly. Instead of the dread or anxiety about what could go wrong sitting in the pit of my gut, I felt pure contentment, bliss and totally joy about how smoothly it went, how amazing the future is going to be and just how far I have come.
Of course, I don’t always feel like this, the body and mind have a great way of pulling us back into the safe known emotions and body reactions. It’s a protective mechanism, it wants to keep us safe and not risk being hurt again. But to truly begin to experience a fulfilling life and all the possibilities out there, I recommend doing the work. Learn how to love yourself, learn how to trust yourself and start backing you because you are you! Not because someone else said so.
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